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‘The Valley’: Who Is Jesse Lally’s Girlfriend Lacy Nicole?
Jesse Lally started his time on The Valley married to Michelle Saniei, but the demise of their marriage played out in the show’s first season in 2024. That same year, he started dating Lacy Nicole, and the two are still together today.
Lacy chose not to appear on Season 2 of The Valley, although she was a prominent figure on the show after she sent Michelle a legal letter due to alleged comments Michelle made about Lacy endangering children. “This is both damaging and untrue,” Lacy insisted in a 2025 TikTok comment.
Now, Lacy will get to tell her side of the story as a “friend of” cast member for Season 3. In fact, she told Swooon she would’ve been in Season 2 “in a heartbeat” if she weren’t a single mother in such a new relationship.
“It was just the timing and being a parent that really deterred me,” Lacy explained. “Now, I think we’ve been together so long, and if somebody still has an issue or a storyline [with me], I think it’s fair to be there and defend myself and not have [Jesse] do it for me.”
Scroll down to learn more about Lacy and her relationship with Jesse.
What does Lacy Nicole do for a living?
Lacy is the founder of the Shame to Sparkle Foundation. The foundation’s mission is to “normalize discussion and advocacy for those suffering from trauma/PTSD,” according to its website. She also hosts a podcast called Shame to Sparkle, where she covers “meaningful topics such as living with autoimmune diseases, attachment style, healing, and obstacles that lead us to shame.”
In her podcast bio, he describes herself as a “survivor and childhood trauma expert.” Lacy is a co-chair of the Children’s Oncology Support Fund and on the board of Breakthrough T1D, a charity that supports people with Type 1 diabetes.
How did Jesse Lally meet his girlfriend?
Jesse and Lacy knew each other for years before they became romantically involved. “We’ve been great friends for a while,” he confirmed to Daily Dish. They went public with their relationship in April 2024, although Jesse admitted they had “no labels” on their romance at the time.
Does Jesse Lally’s girlfriend have kids?
Yes, Lacy has one daughter from a previous relationship. Her daughter is friends with Jesse and Michelle’s daughter, Isabella.
In 2025, Lacy revealed to People that she froze her eggs after dealing with debilitating health issues following the birth of her daughter. She dealt with severe pain before being diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis via an exploratory surgery, and doctors told her she would not be able to have more children.
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At the time, Lacy was engaged, she revealed, but not ready for more kids. She began the in-vitro fertilization (IVF) process, but was told during multiple attempts that he had no follicles. After about eight rounds, Lacy actually got pregnant naturally and miscarried, but this gave her renewed hope since it meant she was ovulating and making follicles.
As of the 2025 interview, Lacy was in the process of freezing her eggs for a second time.
Do Jesse Lally and his girlfriend live together?
No, Jesse and Lacy do not live together, and they have no plans to move in together. Jesse told Swooon that he and his girlfriend live about “an hour” apart, with her residing in Orange County, California, and him in Los Angeles.
“I personally don’t ever want to live with a partner while I have a small child,” Lacy explained. “It’s my own belief system, no shade to Jesse. He’s an incredible father, that’s the truth. And I love our children’s relationship, but I think it’s not a responsible decision.”
Jesse joked that Lacy might start to “hate [his] guts” if he were living nearby and “just deciding to stop by every five minutes.” He also pointed out that they’ve been doing long-distance for two years, and it’s still working for them.
“Isabella’s just started elementary school, and she’s obsessed with her school,” Jesse added. “Let her get through these moments. It’s only an hour away.” Lacy added, “Our kids have one childhood. It’s not a front-of-mind thing for me right now.”
Was Lacy Nicole kidnapped?
When Lacy was in her 20s, she and her best friend were followed home and kidnapped. They spent one night in captivity.
“We were taken by a gang of men, and the charges included human trafficking, kidnapping with the intent of sodomy and rape, assault, assault with a deadly weapon, burglary, carjacking, theft,” she told People. “There were 22 charges. When you’re in your early 20s, you don’t necessarily have literature on how to handle trauma. I just swallowed it and became very unwell.”
The experience led to her diagnosis with several autoimmune diseases and PTSD. The Shame to Sparkle Foundation was created after her “horrific” experiences.
The Valley, Season 3 Premiere, Wednesday, April 1, 8/7c, Bravo
